Asking Top Clients for Referrals—How Not to Appear Desperate

Welcome to Day 5 of our Referral Clinic and Blog-a-thon.  We asked advisors to send us their toughest referral challenges. Now we're featuring the best, along with solutions from top referral experts and veteran financial advisors. 

Today's winning question was submitted by Lynette B., who's with a wirehouse in Dublin, OH.  Congrats, Lynette!

Lynette's question will be answered by Dan Finley, President of Advisor Solutions, Inc. a business development consulting and coaching service for financial advisors.  Dan was a successful financial advisor for thirteen years before founding Advisor Solutions, Inc. 

Question: "I have done such a good job of packaging myself as an advisor to the elite that I have trouble now asking the chosen I work with for referrals without sounding like I am not who I purport to be. How does one elicit their help and ask them to help add onto my practice without looking as if I am needy or not as successful as I portray?"

Dan Finley's answer: Asking your elite clients for referrals when done properly can create a very powerful, positive image.  But setting the stage for a very successful referral campaign with your elite clientele needs a well thought out plan complete with the type of content that elite clients can relate to.

First, you have already successfully completed the very first step, which is to convey the message that you are an advisor to the elite. You are not willing to work with just anyone. Your niche is to help the elite with their complex financial challenges.

Second, you need to take the message to the next level by explaining to them that you are not growing your business in the traditional sense; meaning by adding just anyone—even people who may be considered elite clientele—because you only have so much time in the day to devote to your current client base, who are people that you like.

Third, you need to convey the message that you always have time to help your clients' friends, family and colleagues. In fact, you prefer to work with people who have a relationship with your clients.

Fourth, you need to structure the message that giving you referrals is not about helping you get another client, but rather about helping your clients help someone else.

Fifth, you need to dig deep inside and have a genuine belief system that your mission is to help your clients help others. This may or may not produce financial results for you in the short run, but it will definitely produce incredible monetary and non-monetary results in the long run.

In the right dialogue, this conveys a very powerful message that you are not needy at all, but rather very successful and again are only willing to help those whom your clients want to help.

Let me illustrate a very brief dialogue:

Client: How's business?

Advisor: Great! In fact, I've been so busy that I have decided not to take any additional clients unless they are friends, family or colleagues of my clients, people that my clients want to help.

Client: What do you mean by, “want to help”?

Advisor: Well, how have I helped you the most since we have started working together?

Client: You have helped me reduce my taxes, consolidate my investments, and make sure my estate planning is in order.

Advisor: Who do you believe needs your help the most by getting that level of service?

This is a brief dialogue that powerfully expresses the messages that you have a successful business, you are busy, you have brought value to your client and you want to help those whom your client wants to help. There is nothing needy or desperate about it.

Since you have already positioned yourself as the advisor to the elite, your clients will refer you to someone whom they want to help that will naturally fit your elite clientele. Remember, most affluent investors feel most comfortable speaking with a financial advisor to whom they have been referred.

Got questions or thoughts about today's challenge or Dan's response? Post a comment.

Comments

[Bob Burg]

I thought that was the BEST response to that question I've ever heard.

Excellent, excellent advice, Dan. You positioned it beautifully, with the Advisor coming across "fully-postured", and benefiting the client. Wow!!

[Dan Finley]

Bob,

Thank you for your comments, compliments and insight regarding my response. I appreciate it. I have always respected and admired your work

I agree in that, it is important for every advisor to come across “fully postured” and benefiting the client whenever they are asking for referrals. Clients love to help those whom they care about.

Thanks again,

Dan